adjective-trap
There is a subtle failure mode when labelling yourself. This failure mode could lead to being unaware of inaccurate or imprecise representations of reality.
"I'm optimistic", "I'm caring", "I'm a good listener", "we're collaborative", "we're your-favorite-buzz-word".
This is not about wishful-thinking or virtue signaling. People can and do assign such labels faithfully.
Compare Alice, who told friends she was hopeful about some future outcome, to Bob, who planned for the future outcome and tried to contribute to make it happen. When asked, they both identified as being optimistic, despite their actions being totally different. Labels themselves are not that interesting, what behaviors/characteristics they imply is whats actually important. Often, the labels can imply a variety of behaviors, each contributing different amounts towards the label.
The failure mode occurs when the existence of a subset (e.g. only one) of the behaviors, regardless of magnitude, could match the definition. Only satisfying the condition needed to match the definition misses the important detail that these labels are not binary, but operate on a scale, you could always be more caring, a stronger listener, etc. There is no upper bound.
The antidote is to focus on concrete behaviors. Would doing X cause me to be Y? Would someone who is Y do X? How can I be more Y? The gap between the current actions and the answers to those questions is how deep you've fallen into the adjective trap.